Thursday, January 7

How to have sex with a virgin

Waitee! Before you start saying Tayo Lawal is a bad I didn't write this. It was written by Olamide Oni of Pulse, who is a mother of 2, so you know she has the full experience. It's quite educative and helpful for the soon to be first timers like us. Read below:

First time sex can be pretty awkward and uncomfortable, especially when you are experienced and she is not.
You are the one guy that gets to introduce her to sex and you want to make the encounter a memorable and pleasurable one so she does not freak out and run out the door.

Take control: You’re the experienced one here, and she’s going to need your firm, but gentle, guidance. In fact, shes going to expect it, so don’t be afraid to lead with confidence; women love men who take charge in the bedroom. Let her determine the pace, but never lose sight of who’s teaching whom. You’re the expert; it’s your job to gauge her level of arousal. You want her incredibly horny (and as wet as you can get her) before you go the whole nine yards. She’s going to remember this for the rest of her life. continue after the cut...

Relax her

It’s natural for her to feel a bit jittery, but you can ease much of that anxiety with a few simple tricks. She’s likely to be feeling self-conscious, so start with a few confidence boosters. Tell her she’s sexy and let her know she looks fantastic in your bed. Even if she already knows this, hearing you say it will do wonders. Spend extra time kissing, letting her know you're focused is on her, and not just her body. Talk to her as you touch her body, find out what she likes and what she doesn’t. It may sound one-sided, but this should be all about her and what she’s offering you — as opposed to what you’re taking. Let her know this, and she’ll relax completely.

Turn her on

No doubt it sounds like an obvious tip, but this one is more overlooked than you might realise. You want her so hot she’s purring with lust and begging for it — and you want to keep her that way until the moment of truth. Unfortunately, many men break the mojo just before penetration. It’s not intentional, they just get a bit tense knowing they’re about to cause their partner a minor amount of pain. Relax, she knows what's coming and she’s not going to hold it against you. Go slowly, but don’t forget to kiss and caress her as you do. This gives her something else to focus on and keeps her aroused, which will actually decrease her sensitivity to pain.

Be willing to slow down and stop

She may be ready and willing at the start of the evening, but be prepared for that to change before the deed is done. Rest assured, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t want you, it just means she’s not ready. Some women are more sexually liberated than others — her virginity might be something she can’t cope with losing right now. On the other hand, she might just need a little reassurance. She may need evidence that you really care about her and are willing to wait. A willingness to stop and take a step back is often all the proof a woman needs. It may even be enough for her to decide to keep going. Either way, a little compassion in this area will earn you major points.

Just because she’s a virgin doesn’t mean she’s a cold fish; she’s probably just waiting for the right man to come along and show her how it’s done. A little compassion in this arena could land you a very loyal woman who’s eager to please. Don’t shy away from the "good girl" — step up to the plate and show her what she’s been missing out on.

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